I feel like Fannie Lou. I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. You want to know what I’m tired of? I’m tired of being labeled as ‘ not your average black girl’. What is the average black girl? Why do I have to be mixed with something to have good hair? Like the average black girl can’t have good hair. Well, that’s because I’m not society’s average black girl. Or am I not the average black girl because I talk boldly and walk with confidence? Is it because your definition of the average black girl is one who doesn’t pronounce all of her words, and she’s considered loud and ghetto?
What is the average black girl? The black girl who straightens her hair good, but her good is not ‘good enough’? Am I not it because my hair is not afrogenic enough and kinky enough, but straightened and tamed? Hair styles intimidate you?
Oh no, maybe I’m not the average black girl because I have just a little attitude, but not as much as the other black girls you call rude. You know…. like the black girl over there who has to face society alone and be tough? You don’t know her struggle. Maybe her struggle is different than mine.
So tell me what is the average black girl? Luckily for me, I get a pass because the men in my house pants don’t sag. Or is it because I’m not the teenage black girl you see carrying a baby that might or might not be hers, but you wouldn’t know because you don’t ask?
Again, what is the average black girl? Am I not black enough? Or should I say dark enough, yet still not light enough to be white either? In your perspective, the average black girl can’t even get an academic scholarship because she’s only good for sports; last time I checked Michelle Obama made it without support.
What is the average black girl again?
Let me tell you, this so called ‘non’ average black girl is tired of being put in stereotypical categories. What am I? I am educated, confident, and classy. Just like any black girl can be. Just because my hair is not afro styled and free does not mean the next black girl who does is any less than me. Your definition of ‘the average black girl’ has the potential to be anything she wants to be. And just because she’s not your skin complexion and has long European hair doesn’t mean she’s different. What is a Hispanic girl? What is an Asian girl? What is a white girl? What is a black girl?
Why can’t I just be Feria?
Written by Feria Mays
March 24, 2017